Why Chilvary is Dead in our Urban Cities?

Chivalry or what is left of our bits of good manners have gradually "disappear" from our modern society. If you go to the kampong, you can find good manners are aplenty from the makcik at the kedai runcit to the ah pak at the coconut drink stall. The problem with our so called “urban living” is that
1) we tend to copy western lifestyle excessively without considering the needs of others and those who are less fortunate than us
2) we tend to think selfishly of our needs only. It is all about me.
3) We love to surround ourselves with people who are the same class as ourselves – wealth, education, possessions, etc. We shy away from people who belong to the lower class – when we go to public areas, men and women tend to mingle with those they can identify with. What about those we do not know or are less fortunate? We are blind to these.
4) We put up a mask of false pretences – like we care when others pointed out to us. Are we still in school that we need to be told how to behave civilly? Well, we are still immature that we cannot be considerate of others. When I board the bus or LRT, I always back away and let people sit while I watch people behave selfishly towards the elderly, the pregnant mothers, mothers with young toddlers and etc. This is what we called living with first class infrastructure but with third class mentality. Oh, we even dirty the public toilets and wrecked the public bins because we can and we do not own it –like a bunch of delinquents we are. I captured these images every time I landed at PuduRaya, Masjid Jamek, Central Market, Chinatown and Jln TAR. What is to become of us even though we are more affluent and educated and connected to the outside world than our ancestors?
5) Alas our manners need review and “checking”. We can be courteous pending on who is looking at us. If orang putih are around us, than we go high almighty, putting on our best behaviour and show off our English and good graces. Once we are with our own kind, our good manners just flew out of the window and our mind goes wandering – hmm, what is in for me to be nice to you?
6) we think that to be courteous is invented overseas and alien to our culture. So beat it.
7) we tend to think that to be nice takes lots of effort - like trials and errors on how to say "Hi, how are you today?" or "Let me get that door for you" or "Sorry, I step on your foot". So jual mahal and pretend you did not see the other guy and march off like nothing has happened. Even ppl these days lack good manners not to sneeze openly in public or farted in the bus and LRT. Yes, they do and they stink but hey, life is made for living, not complaining.
So, everyone, take a deep breath and let live. I find the study of human behaviour very interesting as it changes with times- this is called cultural analysis or social psychology. Take time to read these and try some experiment next time you see these behaviours.
Live and let live – time is too short to harp on these shortcomings.